Finally, you got a doctor to make a referral and you have scheduled the first appointment to see a developmental pediatrician.
The first appointment could be overwhelming. “What kind of questions do I ask?” “What would they ask me?” “What do I say?”
Take a piece of paper out and start making observation of your child. What bothers you the most about your child’s behaviors?
Not just during the appointments, but also the entire assessment process, it is a good idea to show the doctors and therapists the child’s worst behaviors so they could try to understand what you are dealing with every day.
Remember not to blame yourself on the child’s behaviors, as you probably have tried everything to change them. Also, remember the assessment is supposed to evaluate your child’s current abilities, not his or her potentials.
You are seeking professional help so you can help your child to grow and adopt. And preferably, the professionals should see what they are dealing with the first hand.
Go in with a “hangry” child. Step back when your child is throwing a tantrum and see what the doctors and therapists can figure out. You can at the same time observe how others handle your child when he or she is having a hard time.
If the doctor complains it is impossible to proceed the assessment and not providing any specifics on the next steps, you might want to consider to find another professional.